Negativity affects ourselves and those around us. It limits our potential to become someone truly important and live a full, colorful life. Negativity has a profound effect on our health. Studies have shown that people who cultivate negativity experience more stress, are more likely to get sick, and are unable to see positive opportunities compared to those who choose to live in a positive way.
When we make the decision to be a positive person, to feel joyful, we attract the same people into our lives. All the negative is overlapped by those positive events that begin to happen around. It is like a snow ball. Negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the difference is in what we fill ourselves with. Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become a more positive person.
If life gives you a lemon, make lemonade
Look for that good. Got fired? This means that there is a new, even more interesting one ahead with new acquaintances and a new creative path. Delayed the train? This is a reason to finally read your favorite book, or buy gifts for your closest people. Did your daughter wear a leather jacket, tractor-soled boots and dyed her hair green? Rejoice that the instinct of greyness is alien to your child – this is undoubtedly a reason to get closer to each other and teach the child a sense of proportion.
People with negative emotions and thinking are best avoided
As a rule, they become the source of our bad mood. Constant complaints from colleagues about the hard life, “friends” gossiping about each other, relatives who come to visit only to gloat over our situation or, on the contrary, to borrow money – all these are factors that can simply be avoided. Friendship should only bring positive emotions. Keep in mind that we also should forget how to complain.
A rolling stone gathers no moss
Most people, when face difficulties and problems, try to simply forget about them. As a last resort, open your soul to your friends and, again, forget about it. But problems cannot be solved by themselves.
Tired of the mess in your house? Give yourself at least ten minutes a day to clean up. But every day. Is the lion’s share of the mess made by children? Come up with a game with the kids where prizes from mom and dad are awarded for cleanliness and order in the house once a week.
Is money flowing away? Plan your spending ahead of time by making shopping lists. And never take more money to the store than is required according to the list – this will protect you from spontaneous purchases of things that you can do without.
Help other people around
Negativity tends to go hand in hand with selfishness. People who live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the meaning in life is to satisfy your needs and take care of yourself, the road to lasting happiness and satisfaction will be long and lonely.
Positiveness and joy accompany the road to the goal. The main way to build meaning and positivity in your life is to start doing things for others. Start small, hold the door for another person, ask how your day went before telling how yours went. Helping others will give you a sense of true value that will transform into positive.
Change the way you think
We can become for ourselves either supporters or enemies. Change comes from your inner world. If you want to be more positive, change the words you say to yourself. The next time you have a negative dialogue, write it down and rephrase it in a positive way. For instance. “I can’t believe I did the exam so badly” to “I didn’t do it as well as I hoped. I know I can do better, and next time I will succeed! “Changing internal dialogue is a powerful tool.