It is not uncommon for me to hear clients, friends and myself commenting on what wusses guys are these days. It seems to be a growing epidemic of men who are metro-sexual and basically females with cock and balls…only they don’t know how to use them.  I have been interested in this growing phenomenon for quite some time now, as I have gone through the spectrum of men who are complete cave men, to male versions of Betty Crocker.  Ask your mom and grandma if the latter type of men existed in their hay day and they will say “absolutely not, unless they were homosexual”.

As part of a growing number of women who are increasingly gaining in self-independence, but realizing that is not necessarily making them happy, I now realize and agree with some relationship experts who argue that we are fucking things up by messing with the traditional male/female roles.  I am in no way suggesting that we women go back to barefoot with rollers attire, but I am suggesting we back off on the male energy a little bit.  New York City is among the worst for witnessing this phenomenon.  We are in the most masculine city there is.  There is always a rush, always a purpose and always a push and a drive.  The city is filled with skyscrapers that are basically erect penises protruding from the earth and into the smoggy sky.  Everyone acts in an abrupt and hectic manner and action (sometimes pushing and shoving) must be taken in order to survive.  This is masculine energy.  We need soft, nurturing women who “coo” and say hello to passer-byes and splash in the water while giggling, in order to even out some of this masculinity.  Instead, we have women who are operating full-speed in their masculine energy, running around like chickens with their heads cut off, shouting demands and orders to their coworkers and then coming home at night and continuing to do the same to the men in their lives.  In addition, many women have totally cut themselves off from their nurturing sides and are hiring nannies and dog walkers to do this for them.  Often, the mothers don’t even know what their kid’s favorite color is, but they will make up for this by storming into the teacher’s classroom and threatening to sue her for having her child sit in the back row and therefore ‘isolate’ her (trust me, I know.  I have been a school teacher for 8 years).  Even the women who wear skirts and heels aren’t fooling anyone as they walk around with such seriousness and stern expressions on their faces that they might as well be wearing military uniforms because you are half expecting them to yell at you to do some push-ups for even looking at them…I don’t care how hot your legs look in those shoes..that energy is not sexy to men!

Furthermore, a lot of women are well aware that they don’t even need a man in their life.  This is the problem.  Form follows function and if you think that men don’t perceive the thoughts that are floating around in the feminine conscious, you are wrong.  Women these days literally don’t need a man and the men know it and it makes them feel worthless and dispensable.  Women can afford to live on their own, there are tons of vibrators on the market that do tricks that no man’s penis and/or tongue could do simultaneously, and if they wanted to have a baby, they could become among the trendies who adopt overseas or get knocked up from a turkey baster.  Women don’t need men to procreate or to survive.  In fact, many women report being happier without one more thing to take care of or deal with in their lives (a man).  This attitude is infiltrating into the minds of the men.  The men, on some level, even if it is not conscious, are aware of this and acting on it.  The world persists on polarities.  So, if the women are going to take on the masculine, the men must take on the feminine.  There is no place for them and their energy and they have basically had their balls cut off by our swords of liberalism.  It is quite sad to witness this.  I see men everywhere deferring to the women to make decisions, take action, and to put together some simple IKEA furniture.  A lot of men wont even ask women out because they are so terrified of rejection. This is what we are breeding. We must be careful what we wish for. As I said, form follows function. If we are wanting to be treated like the men, we will turn into men and our men will turn into a bunch of pussies. If we want something that will suck up dirt, we will buy a vacuum, not a blender.  So ladies, do we want someone who will serve and protect us, stand by us and contribute to our lives, or do we want a pussy? If you really think about it, I think you will agree that you could breath more easily with the first one, and if so, we must change our thoughts and attitudes, so that men can come back to being the beautiful and wonderful martians they were meant to be, serve their natural born functions, and come into to that sexy, manly form.  In next month’s article, I will be giving tips on how to do just that, so please check back in! In the meantime, send loving energy to the men in your life and tell them one way in which you couldn’t live without them…our future and happiness depends on it!

**I am in no way, shape or form suggesting all women or moms are like this.  I know a lot of amazing women and moms who juggle motherhood and career beautifully, but it has been an observation of many.**