Ever have nasty thoughts about someone else? Be it your boss, boyfriend, best friend or that b*tch that you work with, flirted with your man, stole your look, talked crap about you… (you see where I’m going with this.) No doubt people in this lifetime will piss you off, hurt you and if you let them, drag you down. Its happened in the past and, it will, because such is life, happen again.
What many of us on a more conscious path have come to realize is that life is not happening to us, yet rather we are creating the life before us. We recognize that in every moment we have the opportunity to perceive with either love or fear. And that we, not other people (not even that b*tch), are responsible for our own thoughts and feelings. This is all helpful information and very easy to remember in the times when our life is going quite smoothly. However it is quickly and quite easily forgotten in the situations where our buttons are pushed and someone behaves in a way that we would otherwise consider inappropriate to say the least. (more…) read more →
“Flirtation is an art. Flirtation lightens the spirit. It is the quickest way out of a jam- you can melt arguments, evaporate traffic tickets, win a spot at a crowded restaurant. Flirtation eases communication. It makes whatever you wish come to you more smoothly.”- Mama Gena
Flirt with your work. Flirt with your playtime. Flirt with your workouts. Flirt with your body. Flirt with your green juice. Flirt with your piece of chocolate cake. Flirt with your studies. Flirt with your friends. Flirt with your lover. Flirt with your health. Flirt with your disease. Flirt with your power. Flirt with your weaknesses. Flirt with truth. Flirt with possibility.
When you flirt with the world, the world flirts with you.
I had a big breakthrough this week, where I am remembering how powerful it is to feel and how important it is to not judge what I am feeling. I realized that the instant I begin to judge, I immediately cut myself off from the energy and sensation of being in the present moment and accessing the incredible amount of information that comes from feeling. It is a subtle energetic shift that takes me from present, the world of feeling and being, to the past, the world of the mind.
Feeling is one of the greatest gifts we have as women. It is our access to deep inner wisdom, inner knowing’s and truth. Unfortunately, in our modern era, we have been educated to de-value or distrust our feelings. We currently live in a world that values logic, reasoning, science and “concrete facts,” above all else. This is the masculine world, and contrasts to the feminine world, based in the subtle information that comes from our sensitivity, from our emotions, from our bodies and from our creative abilities.
As children, we feel deeply and purely. We don’t have to think twice about what we want to eat, what we want to say or do. We feel something and go with it. However, along the way we were taught that certain feelings are not good or right, or they make someone else feel bad and might hurt another. We enter into the world of self-judgment, and begin to judge ourselves for what we feel. Over time, we subconsciously begin to repress or ignore our feelings, thinking they are bad, or replace them with a constant feeling of guilt (for even having feelings) or doubt how we feel. All of this leads to a loss of personal power, self-confidence and self-esteem that we see in far too many young girls and women today.
When we begin to cut off and shut down our feelings, we not only disconnect from ourselves, but we disconnect from others. It is difficult to cultivate deep relationships with others, whether it is family, friends or a partner. This is the crisis we are experiencing in the world today, a breakdown in human connection and feeling, leading to endless wars and destruction.
A feminine path based in feeling from the heart is deeply needed. This path begins with each and every one of us, beginning to connect and feel ourselves. When we say, “feel” our selves; it means we begin to tune in to how something actually makes us feel. It is a very practical concept.
For example, we can just begin to feel the clothes we are wearing right now. How does your shirt or dress feel on your body? How about your pants? How does it feel to wear your hair up or down? How do you feel when you do something nice for someone, or when you treat someone with anger? How do you feel when you wake up in the morning? When you go to work?
As we begin to ask these simple questions, we begin to tune into what is present and real. The important part in this is to not judge whatever comes up, but to simply allow it to be present.
We begin to access, what it means to truly be alive as we begin to slow down and feel, rather than rush around thinking about the next activity, the next goal, the next meeting, and all that comes with living in a fast-paced world.
As you go about your day, try to turn your orientation towards your feeling and what is happening in your inner world. The practice is simply to observe and note, without any judgment, you breath into the feeling and you breath out, simply noticing.
This very simple practice will revolutionize the way you go about your day and life. You will be amazed at what deep wisdom will begin to open up to you, and you didn’t even have to do anything but allow yourself to feel.
Reena will be hosting a Free Tele-Seminar on the 6 Essential Qualities to Awakening the Feminine on April 16th. For more information visit, www.feminineawakening.com
Reena Desai is a featured Love in Life Contributor and is a spiritual mentor, coach and visionary change agent. For more about her click here for her full bio and all of her articles! read more →
I went to the gym this morning and that is exactly what I thought to myself. “Nitika, you deserve to feel this good.” I worked out for the first time in longer then I care to admit and I was able to finish off my work out with about 10 minutes in the steam room. I felt like I was in heaven, and suddenly realized I have had so much resistance around something that truly makes me feel insanely good. I bet if you look in your life you will find at least one thing that you love to do but some how never find the time for it. Well I am here to tell you that you deserve to be happy, feel loved, connect with with those who light you up, be in a state of bliss and treat yourself with the unconditional and divine love that you were created with. Beauties I want you to acknowledge your fears and discomfort with an incredible amount of compassion in hand and move forward in your life.
I hosted a Colorful Conversations event on Monday night (pictured here) and I have to be honest, it split my spirit wide open in the most exciting way. We are all the same, we all have fears, we all have points of pain and despair, but what are you willing to do with your life in the face of all of those things? For myself, I was willing to go to the gym this morning even when I felt exhausted and I was willing to host a panel of women where 70 beautiful guests showed up, even though I was honestly terrified inside.
So this week I want you to ask your self, are you willing to do what it takes to feel INSANELY good? Are you willing to walk through the fires and fears in life and move closer and closer to your destiny? I know you have it in you, the world is in your hands Beauty, allow yourself to embrace it. Sending much love to you on your journey and can’t wait to hear your thoughts on this over on the site! read more →
We have all met the happily married couple of either a day or 30 years whose answer to the question “What’s the secret?” is: “Relationships take work.” And so we feel like we have to give our all ALL of the time. Not only in relationships, but with everything. After all, we have always been taught that the way to achieve our goals is by working hard.
If you are single, you feel like you need to register for more online dating sites, be more social, ask friends if they know anyone, and in general — be on the prowl for that man that is the perfect match for you.
If you are in a relationship, you think you need to cook dinner every night, clean up everything, look sexy, and rev yourself up to have sex with your partner — even though you are spent and would rather fall asleep.
We are “DOING” so much and constantly spending our energy just pushing through, so we become panicked at any moment that feels a little off. Maybe you and your partner are not on the same page, or a man you are interested in doesn’t return a text message — you are overcome with thoughts like, OMG is he even attracted to me?!
We instantly go into overdrive in wanting to change it, figure it out, and wallow in the self pity of it all.
Somehow we have learned along the way that taking a break is bad.
We haven’t been told enough that it is okay if everything feels imperfect — that relationships have natural ups and downs, that love can take time, and that sometimes doing NOTHING for a bit is the best remedy (and I mean NOTHING). And
I also mean saying to your mind: Stop analyzing and trying to figure it out. We are taking a break. This can be the best remedy to allow yourself to REALLY FEEL LOVED.
Because LOVE is actually shown to us all the time. It is a matter of stopping, dropping, and rolling in it.
This is your permission — because sometimes we need the permission— to take a FREAKING BREAK… from everything. So you can FEEL again.
Remember how carefree it felt when you were a kid coming home from school and knowing the first thing you wanted to do was drop your school bag and go outside and play in the sun with your friends or ride your bike? How worry-free we were. How amazing did that feel? We were having out-of-this-world fun.
So, your To-Do this week is to do NOTHING. Drop your school bag off one day or several days and experience carefree-dom.
Kavita Jhaveri-Patel is a featured Love in Lifecontributor and relationship expert, who helps women at a breaking point in their relationships.
This article was written by Kavita Jhaveri-Patel whose mission in life is to help women worldwide to finally have the kind of love and relationship they desire and deserve. Whether you are single or in a relationship, Kavita can help you to break through every barrier that has been in your way of having outrageously happy love in your life. Her simple and effective tips are designed to create powerful shifts and she is thrilled to be guiding Bella Beauties on their love journeys! Have a love question for Kavita? Leave one in the comments below and let Kavita personally coach you through it.
