I recently witnessed a pre date dressing disaster.  My roommate was getting ready for a date with her new boyfriend and for at least 30 minutes could not decide between jeans or leggings to go with her new black top.  I opted for the jeans but when I saw her distress I told her to literally wear what made her feel best.

We’ve all been there, getting ready to go out trying on and throwing off shirts, swapping this for that.  Moving from bedroom to bathroom and back as if the mirrors may somehow change our perception of how we look.  However on a deep level it really doesn’t matter what we wear.  What does matter is how we feel in what we wear.

If my roommate changed from denim to stretch cotton or a dress to pants, it would make no difference. While style, fit and print do carry significance, at the end of the day (or night), its how we feel that gets attention.

The point is when we feel good, we look good, not always necessarily the other way around.  So next time when your in your room contemplating what will cover your bottom half, throw on what you feel best in and try these pre date preparation tactics, no belting or boosting required

Hit up Itunes or Pandora.com and get moving to your favorite song! Dance in your room or take a swift walk around the block with your ipod.  Not only will you take your mind off your outfit but the music and the movement will literally release dopamine, the feel good brain chemical.

Back away from the mirror. There are only so many times you can look in a mirror before that self doubting voice is seen more than its heard.  No you do not need to change, you do not need more make up.  You look beautiful, tell yourself that and it will show more then that extra coat of mascara.

Close your eyes, and breath. Imagine how you want to feel.  Sexy, calm, beautiful, enchanting.  Use your imagination and take yourself back to a great moment in your life, or create a new one where you feel wonderful.  More than your cute shoes, your date will immediately notice your amazing energy.

Smile! Even if no ones around. It sounds silly and it is.  But think about this, it takes 17 muscles to smile, and 43 to frown.  So work the muscles that show happiness.  Hold it long enough and you may even laugh.

So how did her date go?  Still together, happy and spending less time searching through the closet.