Editors Note: While it is so easy to look at your friends and their relationships and think “they’re so lucky, they have so much passion” don’t use that as a way to feel sorry for yourself and your possibly dull relationship!  If you want something in life we are told to go after it, right?  Well in this article we show you that it is no different when it comes to wanting PASSION in your life.  Read below and find out how to get the passion you have always longed for. ~Nitika~

So many women believe that when it comes to passion and libido, you either got it, or you don’t.  But the reality is that passion isn’t something you have, it’s something you DO. Creating passion in your relationship and in your life is a practice, not a trait.

So if you’re worried that you’ll never feel that “rush” with your man again, or believe that sex will never feel like it did that first night, fear no more.

Passion is all about creating “polarity”.  Polarity between two people happens when they have opposite energies, like a magnet.  But instead of being positive and negative, it is about being masculine and feminine.

But as modern women, we’ve dialed up our masculine essence to succeed in the work place and to create more equality in our relationships.  Over all this has been a positive shift, creating respect, trust and equality in our relationships and in our careers.

But with this emphasis on masculine energy, a lot of us have lost tough with our true feminine core, and because of this, lost the polarity in our relationship.

Now, I have no doubt that your fiancé could work on building his masculine essence as well, but I am firm believer that if you focus on yourself and getting in touch with your essence, you will awaken your man’s masculine essence in ways you never thought possible.

So let’s begin:

Lesson 1: Own your feminine essence and know it is a gift.  As modern women, our masculine sides have been rewarded in school and in the work place, and our feminine cores have often referred to as eruptive, irrational or flighty.  So we haven’t learned to revere this very important part of ourselves.  But our feminine energies, heal and nurture and breath life into rational, regular life.  We have a glow, an aura and an intuition that men don’t have. When we tap into our core, magic happens.

Lesson 2: Tap into your feminine core. Your feminine essence is there, it’s just dormant, or covered up or scared to come out.  But there are things you can do to awaken it:

1. Be in nature

2. Light candles

3. Dance

4. Dress in a feminine way, to work and at home.

5. Get a back massage

6. Meditate and think about being in a tropical place

All of this is especially important to do when you are done with work, and need to transition to being a feminine force at home with your man.

Lesson 3: Learn to do things YOUR WAY.  You do not need to act like a house wife to achieve polarity or get in touch with your feminine core.  In fact, having an equal relationship based on respect and friendship and support for each other’s talents is crucial to having a healthy relationship BUT you do not need to have a relationship based on strict guidelines, rules or unrealistic expectations.

Maybe you actually LOVE cooking but have put so much pressure on your fiancé to cook every other night because you’re worried about being an anti-feminist.

When it comes to the tasks that come with being in a relationship, when you are in touch with your feminine core, you will naturally do the things you want to do, not the things you should be doing.

Lesson 4: Have sex your way:

When you are connected to your core, you comfortable and trust, you can relax into the moment, showing your gifts, your core might be telling to be more dominant or more passive, but you have an internal knowledge of what to do and what feels good.   For you it will feel like total release, and eruptive passion.

This does mean you have to have sex all the time!  When you are in touch with your core, you will be connected with what is right for you.

So what’s the result? You can still be a hustler, go-getter in your job, but at home your role is to be a relaxed feminine goddess. When you are in your feminine essence, you’ll radiate, you’ll glow and feel open.  Your man is going to be super attracted to that energy, you will be magnetizing his masculine essence and the passion you remember from that first date, will be your daily reality.