As I sat in Her formal living room, I couldn’t believe it. She is one of my most favorite people. Her books and talks have single handedly changed my life, and did I mention I was in her living room! The world renowned speaker, author and spiritual activist Marianne Williamson. If you don’t know who she is, you should, every women should.

When I moved to LA I was blessed to learn that she spoke on Mondays 40 minutes from where I live. I am in attendance every week.  It was on a Wednesday when I sat in her presence when only a week and a half prior I had confided in her. I shared merely the fact that my relationship, like all relationships, was bringing up my ‘stuff’ and I was feeling extremely anxious. I was expecting amazing advice, perhaps a prayer or a book recommendation. Yet as God would have it I was given an opportunity of a life time and what has appeared to in fact completely change the game in my relationship.

At this point your probably thinking well what did she say!! And that I will share with you. However before I do I advise you all reading this whether single, married, cohabitating or on the verge, as I was, of a meltdown to let this information be more then just another tool in your box of life, but rather to truly implement and witness the miracles.

Here goes. Marianne Williamson is teacher of A Course in Miracles.  From A Course it states and she often references often that ‘all relationships are assignments.’ She goes on further to explain anyone you are supposed to meet, you will meet and anyone you do meet you were supposed to meet. What you do with that encounter is entirely free will. Call in all romantic relationships.

People are who they are. Maya Angelou said

“The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them.”

Good advice. People. Men. Are who they are. Don’t try to change them because they won’t, and if they do, chances are you’ll want to leave them anyway. Or they will want to leave you. Acceptance is key. If you don’t want to, you have a right to leave. In her book “Getting to I Do” author Pat Allen writes “Women do not have nagging rights, only leaving rights.” Brilliant. Perhaps a bit annoying at first, frustrating even, but it puts you in the driver seat. Take him baby, or leave him.

Secondly from A Course In Miracles, Marianne shared ‘Only what you are not giving can be lacking in any situation.’ Deep breath here because this one requires a lot of responsibility. How easily though we look at another person’s lack or mistakes. Yet when we recognize that we cannot change someone else, only ourselves, the feeling is not upset but rather relief. Once again putting you in the driver seat of your life. Take inventory of where you are not giving your best, where you are acting with less then love. Start from there and give, whether it be to he other person, or to yourself by say, perhaps leaving an unloving situation.

Through acceptance and love you can transform your life and the parts of which you share with others. Use their spiritual principals to transcend or leave in peace, all of your relationships.