Monday night at my #1 teachers lecture, she answered a question about loving yourself that I just had to share.

Here goes:

Q. Why is it so hard to consistently love yourself?

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A. Because you are human. And you will make mistakes. Probably you can tally up more mistakes in your life then you can successes.

*Reminder – this makes you human.

However if you base your self love on how well you ate this week, how many times you made it to the gym, your productivity at work, the status of your relationship, the $ amount in the bank, the way you looked.. or whatever!!! It will consistently be difficult to love yourself.

Because you are human.

And because you are human you will over eat, skip the gym, feel lazy, argue with the people in your life, lose money and spend irresponsibly and on certain days in your own eyes, look like crap.

So there it goes. Given the inconsistent resources we use to determine our love and self worth, it makes perfect sense that one week we feel on fire, and the next we feel like a failure.

Are you tired yet? Of the yoyo,  the back and fourth, up and down and constant feeling that you need to ‘improve’ who you are from last week or month?

Self love when placed on the outside is not only exhausting but.. it is 1000% unobtainable.

Now here is the good news.

There is a way to love yourself, all the time, no matter what. AND when you use this method, your “mess ups” become less often. Because as I have mentioned before and will keep drilling “women need to feel good to do good.” So the more we feel good about ourselves the less likely we are to skip the gym, over eat, spend stupidly, fight with others and whatever other ‘mistakes’ we make day to day.

The way to truly love yourself is to remember who you REALLY are. And who you really are, is part of something SO much bigger then your ‘resume’ and healthy habits.

Think about how much ( and in reality how little) you care if your best friend eats one to many slices of pizza and lays on the couch from the moment she gets home from work till the next morning.

You still love her all the same right? Maybe even a bit more for sharing her human side.

So take this into consideration, there is a loving Source, that feels the same way about you. Remembering this that you are part of God (there I said it) Is  # 1 to consistently love yourself, feel better and “mess up” less.

Digest that, its a big concept, huge in fact.  This simple mantra from A Course In Miracles, Lesson 94, is the beginning of cultivating self love on rock (sturdy and ever present) rather then sand

“I am as God created me”

If this mantra doesn’t resonate with you, do not worry, fear or fret. (It’s almost too profound for us to really ‘get’)   Just use it. God created you as perfect, our minds make us mess up, but what you do, cannot and never will take away from what you are part of.

If for no other reason use this to feel better, because in the words of the Kardashian’s… “bible”  you WILL feel better.

Try it for a week.

Report back with results!!

Kelsea Brennan is a featured Love in Life contributor and daily motivator and inspiration to over hundreds of woman, Kelsea teaches that through love and faith you can change for your life for the better forever. For more about her click here for her full bio and all of her articles!