Editors Note: This article really feels like one of the first lessons to remember in walking towards a true place of happiness.  What you say determines so much of what your life looks like, so take the time to ask yourself the questions below and be conscious of what you say for even just the next 24hrs.  I promise you will feel a noticeable difference. ~Nitika~

If you were certain that every word you spoke was literally going to manifest in your life, what would you start saying and what would you stop?

What if you were certain that every word you spoke could either make you feel happy or crappy?  How would your conversations shift?

What if you were certain that every time you spoke about what you didn’t want in your life, you increased the chances of that very thing to coming into fruition?

This is actually exactly how life works.  Perhaps, not every word that we speak manifests physically in our life, however most do.  We speak about never being able to lose weight, find single men, or our annoying jobs.  Then we wonder why we never lose the weight, aren’t dating and our job keeps sucking.

As women we speak often and not about very important things.  We complain and gossip. The scary thing is we don’t even realize it.  If you are already offended, I can tell you, its because deep down you know its true.  It used to be (and sometimes still is) true for me, too.  I recently searched through my sent emails, looking back to emails from 2005! I have deleted them all since.  But, when reading those emails, I couldn’t believe the words and stories I typed and shared.

Now that I am working on my awareness of the words I speak, I without judgment (I promise) notice the tone, the words and the stories we, as women, share.  On the streets or on our cells phones, I so often see more scowls rather then smiles and hear angry tones rather then laughter. And, it’s not serving us.

With every word we speak, we are making a choice to feel a certain way. Why retell a story about a person who upset you, to friends, sometimes three different times!  It made you feel bad the first time it happened? Isn’t once enough? Let it go and talk about something that makes you feel good.

Women are good at telling each other what we don’t want.  But when asked what we do want, sometimes coming up with a list of ten is a struggle and often a “don’t want” is thrown into the mix just out of habit.  We talk about what we don’t want, as if it will make the very thing go away. However, it does the exact opposite. Not only does talking about that which we do not want to happen in our lives make us feel annoyed, frustrated or mad, but it energizes that which we do not desire.  That which we energize is often what the universe brings to us.  Not to hurt us, but because it doesn’t understand the word don’t.

No one has ever complained their way into a great relationship, gossiped towards a loving friendship, or worried themselves into a promotion. Months or weeks of life taken up by irritation or worry for one fleeting moment of excitement, are not worth it.

Want to see just how it works? Try this exercise:

Call up a friend and talk to her about all the qualities you do want in a man or job, apartment or for yourself.  Beware not to mention anything you do not want.  When you end the call, write a few adjectives describing how you feel.

Call up another friend (or the same one) and tell her what you do not want in a man, job, apartment or in your life.  While you’re on the call and after, notice how you feel.  Write adjectives that describe that feeling.

Recently, I heard that our words are prayers.  Think about what your asking for and keep in mind, God doesn’t hear the word don’t.