Editors Note: This is an important topic that I am constantly meditating on, and asking myself about.  My recommendation is that you read this article twice as this conversation lives in most of us which has it feeling almost “normal” and like something that isn’t really holding us back, but just a part of life.  Well things CAN be different, and from someone who has been on both sides of this conversation I can tell you that releasing these thoughts is incredibly healing.  ~Nitika~

Have you got a case of the “when I haves”?

The “when I haves” are the tripped up mentality that “when I have that job, or when I have that relationship, or when I have that money… — then I’ll be happy.” This future-tripping leads your mind to control, manipulate and over-think. In addition, you’ll be led to thoughts like, “when will I get there” and “why am i not there yet.” This obsession with future outcomes will always lead to discomfort. What happens is that you’ve turned that future outcome into an idol. You’ve placed the outcome on a pedestal proclaiming that “when I have that, then I’ll be happy.” Or even worse, you tell yourself that because you don’t have it now, your life totally sucks and you’ll never be happy.

If you have a case of the “when I haves” than this article is for you. There are three specific solutions to this quandary.

First I suggest taking the focus off of you. By choosing to shift your focus from a “woe is me” mentality, to ‘how can I help others” mentality, you immediately are blasted into another dimension. You’ll be brought back to your true reason for being on this planet, to give love and receive love. By repositioning your focus off of yourself you’ll quickly feel a sense of relief. You’ll feel calmer and begin to release your obsession with the future. Most importantly you’ll get out of your own way and be of service to someone else.

This brings me to my second suggestion for releasing the “when I haves.” The next step is to calm down. Embrace the concept that you are right where you need to be. Think about it. Can you remember a time in your life where you thought you’d never survive the situation you were in? In retrospect, can you now find some serenity in that past situation?  Possibly, you may now understand that you wouldn’t be where you are today without the difficult past circumstance. If so, use these past examples as impetus to begin accepting your current life circumstances as learning opportunities for the future. Have faith that there’s a plan greater than yours that will guide you to serenity.

Now you might be thinking, how the hell am I expected to have faith that there’s a plan greater than mine? Well my friend, this brings us to my final suggestion for releasing the “when I haves.” Drum roll please… Stop thinking and start connecting. This connection I speak of is a connection to the energy of the Universe. The Universe is a constant flow of energy, always creating, always supporting and always attracting. The same energy that makes the planets revolve around the sun also lives inside you. This energy is vibrating through you at all times. When you are vibrating with fear the energy of the Universe is attracting more fearful outcomes to you. When you are vibrating from a place of faith you are guided to outcomes that are in alignment with the calm state that faith provides. The way to positively co-create with this Universal energy is through daily prayer and meditation. A daily practice of prayer and mediation will help calm your thoughts and bring you into the present moment. By calming your mind you calm your energy. Therefore, you end up in a much better state for attracting better outcomes. This is what is called co-creating with Universal energy.

Your practice of daily prayer and meditation will rev up your positive energy and tone down your fear. Begin your prayers with one of my favorites from A Course in Miracles, “Where would You have me go? What would You have me do? What would You have me say, and to whom?” You can begin your meditation practice with me as your guide CLICK HERE.

If you are ready to release your “when I haves” and surrender to, “I’m right where I need to be,” then test-drive the above suggestions for the next thirty-days. As a result you will feel empowered by a sense of connectedness to the Universe and you’ll experience release. Faith will become something that you understand on a guttural level. If you do your part to make positive perceptual shifts you can expect miracles.

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