Everybody I know, myself included, complains. In other words, everybody I know, myself included, is wasting a lot of time and energy.
I started thinking about this a couple of weeks ago. I am currently training for a running race and am on a pretty rigorous running schedule. I had a long run coming up one weekend and found myself whining about it to anyone who would listen. “I am going to be SO TIRED.” Or, “My knees are absolutely killing me. I’ll be proud if I can even walk afterward.” Or, “There goes anything fun I’ll do on Saturday night…” I was MISERABLE. I was DREADING it. And then I went on it. And to be honest, it wasn’t so bad. When I finished, I wondered why I was so bummed about the fact that I had to run. I was fine, in all actuality. And then I realized: I was the reason I was dreading it so much. I had talked down so much to myself and anyone near me that I was a ball of negativity. What was my problem? Bingo: My attitude.
So, I tried something out. The days leading up to the next one, I refused to complain about it. Coworkers, my friends, and my mom all asked me about the long run that was coming up the next time around. Instead of being a thunderstorm of dread, I brushed it off. “It’ll be nice, Saturday is supposed to be really sunny.” Or, “It’s nothing I can’t handle.” Or my favorite, “The beer I have afterwards at brunch will taste VERY GOOD.” (If you are beer-drinking kind of gal, which I am. But coconut water, OJ, red bull, green juice, whatever, would be great). And what do you know, the run wasn’t NEARLY as bad. I couldn’t believe it. My hypothesis confirmed: I was the reason that I was so grouchy and miserable! That is so not ok!
Life is full of things we don’t want to do. Laundry. Dishes. Staying late at work. Visiting crotchety grandparents. Doing our taxes. Paying the credit card bill. Going to the doctor. Eyebrow waxes. Whatever. But I think more of the reason tasks like these become such a hassle is because we treat them as such. If we stopped all the moaning and groaning that we let take over our thoughts and conversations, life would be alot simpler. And easier. And more enjoyable.
I’ve been consciously trying to take my anti-complaining about my running program to all other parts of my life. Screw the ‘woe is me attitude.’ It brings me down and makes other people not want to be around me. I’m not saying that I am going to be excited to unload the dishwasher or clean my toilet; but instead of being bitter or angry or negative about it, I am just going to do it. Life has a ton of inconveniences— but really only if we view it as that. Our attitude about our day-to-day grind is our attitude about life. Life IS just day-to-day. So take it for what it is, drop the negativity, and just do it. Why waste the time doing anything else?
** This article was written by guest contributor Bevin Reilly, for her bio and contact information please visit http://yourbellalife.com/guest-contributors/
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