Holding a space of love and compassion for yourself in every moment helps ward off I forgot to fasten my oxygen mask first type of emergencies. Love is a gateway to effortlessness. You hold the key to go beyond just saying ““I love you” and instilling self-love as a core value with your children.
Luckily it’s easy to love yourself, exactly as you are, as you are fabulous, and February is the perfect time to fall madly and deeply back in love with yourself.
Some love notes:
Ego Check: Loving yourself is not an ego thing, it’s a love thing and no modesty is required. Being full of yourself and boasting is an ego trip. You are supposed to love, accept and be proud of who you are. You are entitled to fully honor the positive parts of yourself. It’s just being honest! The positive side of your ego will share all that’s fabulous when you’ve forgotten. Keep your negative ego in check when she starts on her ugly track with “you don’t deserve” “you suck” “you’re fat” “you’re too big for your bridges”. Then thank her as she can teach you what insecurities or issues are blocking your mojo.
Date Yourself: Devote time to yourself. My best friend Melissa Goldberg says, “stash time away for yourself like you would save money in your savings account.” Take that time and invest it doing something you love and find inspiring. Go for a walk in the cool air, stroll through a museum, enjoy nature therapy by arranging some flowers, indulge with some super thick Parisian style hot chocolate at the newly opened Laduree or mainstay City Bakery, do a guided meditation from any of Gabrielle Bernstein’s offerings or from Meditations For Moms, read a book, journal, bust out your stencils and draw, turn on some music and get jiggy with it. Enjoy your own company.
Self-Care: Care for yourself. Commit to your own wellbeing and release what no longer serves you. Scan your emotional, physical and spiritual self and each area of your life – health, relationships, career. Acknowledge your unhealthy beliefs, thoughts, practices, habits, addictions, vices or energy suckers in your life. Get professional help where required. One at a time, accept and thank each for the lessons and then actively release it. Forgive your past judgmental unhealthy chain smoking cake batter gorging self. Supplement new healthy ways to care for yourself and be gentle if you fall off the love wagon. I love these 50 simple self-care tips by life coach, Corrie Woods.
Core: Re-connect with the core of who you are, that part of you that is pure spirit and is so open, clear, divine and peaceful. You may have to dig through and clear some layers but she’s there, ever waiting to be acknowledged and to integrate fully with your daily experiences.
Live Your Truth: Pauline Esposito, an intuitive metaphysical healer and teacher says, “living your truth is your greatest act of self-love, to love yourself is to know your soul and accept it fully. To know yourself and love yourself well enough not to do something that is out of authenticity for your soul. “ When you start doing what everyone else wants you to do you start losing touch with what you feel is right for you to do. Do what is in your truth, is honest to who you are and take actions that expresses and advances your truth.
Be Your Best Cheerleader: Accept a compliment. While in law school, a close friend said without a shadow of sarcasm “you are so smart, beautiful and amazing.” She’d go on and on listing my positive traits and by the end of my third year, I was finally able to accept and fully embrace those beliefs. Take a cue from Stuart Smalley, grab a mirror, smile big, blow yourself a kiss and say “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough and doggonit, I LOVE ME!” Then go be a cheerleader for your friends and family, shower them with Arielle Fierman’s I LOVE ME rings, and bask in the love.
Listen to your heart to show you your pathway to being your own best lover.
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Cynthia Litman is a featured Healthy Living Contributor and is an entertainment lawyer, social entrepreneur, business adviser, working mom, creator, author & hostess of the blog & talk radio show Mommas Pearls. For more about her click here for her full bio and all of her articles! read more →