When was the last time you felt motivated to start something, anything, and followed it all the way through to completion?
Be it a weight loss goal, new exercise regime or food plan. Or perhaps you want to write more, keep your room clean or get your taxes done.
If you’re like me (and almost every other person on the planet) then you know that staying motivated to accomplish any goal, no matter how big or small can feel like one of the most daunting tasks there is. (more…) read more →
Before you dive into this article headfirst and get ready to show all these unwanted emotions who’s boss, I want to slow you down just for a moment. Take a few seconds and check in with yourself: How well do you actually know your anger? Your worry? Your frustration? Your sadness? Your feelings of not being enough? Choose whatever emotion is most prominent in your life. Do you know where in your body this emotion shows up? Do you know what color it is? What shape?
If you answered “No” you are like the vast majority of people. Most of us are so wrapped up in our heads when we experience negative emotions that we usually don’t get to the deeper levels of what this experience means for us; thus we make it more difficult for ourselves to cope with it constructively in the long run.
Editors Note: Something I have always struggled with in my own life is the fact that I have always felt I was TOO emotional. While I have learned there is a time and a place for everything, I have also learned that these feelings are a gift. If we spend our time neglecting and hiding from our true emotions we can only expect that they will show themselves eventually and most likely not at a time that is convenient for us. So dig deep everyone and dive in to your emotions in order to create a brighter future for yourself. ~Nitika~
Our analytical, intellectual minds attempt to get in the way. Our judgments, our apologies, our comparisons, they get in the way. Of growth, of learning, of feeling, of being. When we judge our emotions, we are refusing to see our own truth.
I have been known to be a chronic judger of my emotions. I feel something, anything and the negative self-talk begins right away. “You are being silly, she didn’t mean any harm”, “Why are you so emotional?? No one cries this much”, “Suck it up, you’ll be okay”. How mean is that? Would I say that to a friend? Never.
Why are we talking to ourselves this way? It could be that it’s what we have learned to do. Most of us were taught to suppress our emotions as we grew up. We were told that we were too sensitive or that we overreact and even when no one is actually telling us to stop feeling, we take on that role ourselves. But here is the reality. We are not overreacting. What we are feeling is real, it is truthful, and it is beautiful. I am here to remind you that you no longer need to control your emotions, judge your emotions, or apologize for them. It’s time to let them run, wild, crazy and free.
Our emotions are the key to our intuitive selves; they are an essential aspect of getting to know ourselves at the deepest level. When we learn to accept and honor our emotions, they can become our greatest teachers.
How can we access the knowledge that our emotions are providing us?
1. Let it be. When you feel emotions coming up that you are uncomfortable with, say to yourself “I accept my feelings fully, they are here to guide me.”
2. Ask. Ask your pain, your sadness, and your grief what it is you need to learn. Sit in a meditation, lie down in silence, write, or call up a friend and start talking through it. Call on your inner knowing to provide you with the answer. You may come up with an answer that can help you. You may not. And if you don’t, trust that when the emotion passes through you, things are shifting.
3. Surrender. Create a space for yourself where you can fully submit to the feeling that is coming up for you. Let it come through you uninhibited. Cry. Laugh. Scream. Whatever needs to happen let it happen. Think of emotions as energy that needs to pass through you.
After all, feeling is a part of being human, it’s part of knowing the richness and depth of our lives. Be courageous; get to know your own depths. read more →