First of all, start small. Go to the pool with friends who you feel good around. Go to the beach or pool with your sister or closest friend. Once you’re there, laugh a lot, and focus on having as much fun as humanly possible. Last summer, I bought a ridiculous neon bathing suit, got crazy fake nails with really expensive nail art, and blasted my favorite hip hop songs at my uncle’s pool with my closest girlfriend until we got in trouble with the neighbors. That’s when I realized I love the pool, and am certainly not gonna let a few extra pounds (**in my head**) keep me away. (more…) read more →
How often do you find yourself thinking “I wish I had a sign,” when it comes to decisions in life?
For the big, and sometimes even little choices we need to make, a sign that we are making the right one always makes things seem easier.
At his most recent lecture author and speaker Jacob Glass spoke about the presence and experience of miracles; which can also be interpreted as signs. He said that A Course in Miracles teaches us that Miracles are our birthright, and that when they are not occurring something has gone wrong. (more…) read more →
What would your life look like if you could look in the mirror and not harshly critique every square inch? What if you could look at your reflection and smile at your beauty?
I recently posted a survey to women on my email list asking them what they secretly say to themselves. The fact that “Fatass, Scarface, Lardy”, “You’re fat and a man will never want you because you’re not as skinny as those other girls” and “Your teeth aren’t white enough, your skin isn’t clear enough, and your thighs are too fat” are some of the nicer responses is so sad. I get it though, I have that voice in my head and she is just as mean. (more…) read more →
In the past I have often been told that I’m too intense, I’m too much, or that I should “turn it down a notch.” I’ve even been told that I’m more trouble than I’m worth. And I would respond by “smalling” myself, like a Slinky I would retract, shrinking back to half my soul’s size. I would “tone it down” (or at least try to) and pretend to be far more of what others wanted, needed, and expected of me.
None of that is possible now. I can’t dim or diminish who I am any more than a sea monkey that has met with water can squeeze back into its original packaging. (more…) read more →
Anger is a very real human emotion, but one that is not socially acceptable. We’re told since we are young to, “be nice!” “behave!” “if you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all!”. But rarely were we also given the tools to deal with anger or frustration when it came up, so many times, it turns into something bigger and begins to affect us on a subconscious level, and controlling our behavior making us feel out of control or just plain numb. Anger is masked hurt, which is rooted in fear. When we are able to heal our anger, we are able to align with our higher self, expressing ourselves in a way that is authentic to us–from a place of love, not fear, creating deeper connections and freedom from the ego’s perceptions of hurt, pain, blame, guilt and all suffering.